I was born with a feminist brain and the heart of a hopeless romantic and let me tell you straight off that the two don’t always get along!
At the moment, with the impending wedding my sassy sisters are in a complete debacle about the whole name change situation. On the one hand the hopeless romantic cannot wait to be a wife, to take the name of her one true love, to be a Mrs…. The Grants! On the other hand the feminist is dying inside, she is furiously shaking her fist at the hopeless romantic and screaming for her independence, clinging on to the name that she has built her life around for so many years, her reputation, everything about her is in this name.
So then who is right? They both make a good case! I am stuck in between this torturous pair on the regs and I wish they could just agree!
I will of course be changing my name regardless but there’s still that niggling feeling that I’m loosing something. I mean I am 100% devoted to my fiancé, I am ready to share my life with him forever but am I ready to loose the only identity I’ve ever known? Will I become a different person?
I can’t be the only one who thinks these things? And we shouldn’t feel guilty for thinking them (although sometimes I do!) It doesn’t mean you’re not committed, it doesn’t mean you’re any less ready or in love. I personally think it’s a completely normal process.
I am a pretty family oriented person, I love my family to bits and I am so proud to be a Butcher, I’ve been referred to solely by my last name by friends for so many years, I am known as a Butcher and I guess I’m just scared to lose that. Will people think different of me? Will I feel less like part of my family?
But on the other hand I get to make my own family, to share my name with my husband and to have children who are part of us and our name. I will be responsible for carrying on a family name which at the moment does not feel mine but one day it will!
I don’t see it as giving myself to someone else, I don’t see taking their name as a negative, I see it as a step I am happy to take to become that traditional, fairytale, family unit … To be the Grants!
Mrs Laura Grant will be with you in a few months and I can’t wait for you to meet her … She’s a bloody hoot I tell ya 😉
Having sadly laid both the original Grants to rest this past year I feel a sense of pride to be stepping into their shoes. Whilst they could never be replaced, I can only hope that we will live up to their 60+ years of marriage, the strong relationship they had and the amazing people that they were! I hope that they will be proud of what we have and I hope to do their name and their family justice.
Peace and Love xoxo