Self care – all about balance 

I feel like I’m in a whirlwind of emotions over my body at the moment. One minute I’m like screw it and eating all the chocolate and sweets, next I’m shame eating kale. It’s the most frustrating thing.

I know society is brainwashing me into feeling this way but I also know that when I’m healthy and fit and toned I feel SO much better in myself. I mean I can still look in the mirror now and be like damn girl but I just ran up the stairs to catch my train and thought I might die! My ankle issues are creeping back, I’ve got problems with my wrists and my skin has flared up.

I really want need to take some time this year to just focus on me. I focussed on the wedding, I focussed on buying a flat…. now Laura needs some brain space.

I’ve been getting my nails done (by Liv who is an actual star!), I’ve had a facial, I’m getting my hair done more regularly. I know to some people this is the norm but I get super lazy when it comes to taking care of myself and that needs to change.

I’m taking some proper time in the evenings to care for my skin and as well as this nightly routine, Ive introduced two face masks to use once a week (I love doing a face mask in the bath, it turns the most mundane task into a little pamper sesh). I’m also considering trialing a more mineral foundation but they never give me enough coverage so I think I’ll have to pair this with a liquid concealer. I’m going to attempt to make some more healthy choices for what I’m putting into my body as well as onto my body AND I’m getting back into that gym routine! Going to the gym just makes me feel so much better and actually gives me way more energy! I’ve also got a few alternative therapies booked in to help various things and I will document how they go once I’m done.

I’m not 100% sure what this post is about aside from a little update and a brain dump for me to release these thoughts. But I suppose it’s also to show that everyone gets complacent with the self care and we shouldn’t beat ourselves up about it. You just get back on that wagon when you’re good and ready! Sometimes we need a big blow out to just eat what we want, do what we want and to not worry about the consequences… it’s all about balance!

Speaking of which, if you don’t know already I have launched a new instagram page, inspired by the amazing writer that is Sophie Kinsella. Sophie released a book earlier this year called my not so perfect life and on the back of this started an instagram page with the same name to document all those not so perfect moments in life which rarely get shared on the glittering highlight reel that is social media. I’ve decided to jump on the back of this and start my own page called @notsoperfectlifebyLaura (see what I did there! Got to keep on brand haha). I’m documenting my out takes, my not so perfect, fml, fail moments and if this makes just one person feel less alone, less silly, more worthy then I will be one happy lady!

So how are you guys doing now it’s ALMOST APRIL!!!! What on earth!?

Peace and love xoxo

Turning 26!

Guys I’m 26! It’s happened, I’m officially the wrong side of 25 but do you know what, I literally couldn’t feel better right now!

I feel so happy, so settled, so on track with my life and I had the best birthday I’ve had for ages. Unfortunately the last couple of years Jon and I have had terrible news around our birthdays and last year I had the worst spa experience of my life (read about that here if you want).

So this year I didn’t plan anything big I was just going to have a nice, quiet, splendid little birthday.

Well that didn’t happen! I mean it was nice and splendid but by no means quiet!
My birthday was on Wednesday but I managed to spread it across an entire week of food and booze and it was just perfect.

Monday saw me having some work drinks to celebrate our renewal period, not technically birthday related but indulgent none the less. Tuesday, I had pizza express lunch with some work pals which was supposed to be accompanied by that free bottle of prosecco they give you for your day of birth but we were way too hungover for that so carb overload it was!

Then it all got mega exciting because this girl booked the rest of the week off! I mean if you can’t randomly book time off for your birthday when can you?!

26 years prior to Wednesday I escaped the womb and to celebrate I went shopping with my mum where I obviously bought things from new look because I have an actual obsession with that shop and honestly need to go to some kind of support group! If you feel the same please hit this girl up…. we need each other! Once we were all shopped out we headed to Bourgee for afternoon tea. I LOVED it here, the decor is a bit of me! Navy and copper goals! As well as an Art Deco waterfall wall as you enter, I mean bravo to bourgee for bringing this classy place to Chelmsford. The food was also delicious which is a plus. We had “afternoon tea on the lawn” which luckily was not outside (cause it was raining) but served on a tray covered in fake grass… genius. My favourite parts were the sausage roll and lobster cheese thing (technical term.) we coupled this with the cloudy lemonade of dreams and finished off with a ginger and lemon tea. I actually got an offer for this on groupon which meant all of that (aside from the tea) was £15 for the 2 of us! What a bargain!

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After lunch we headed back to mine so mum could fake tan my back… cause that’s what mums are for right?! I then donned my new pink body from new look and almost squealed at how bloody cute it is! Deffo my new fave thing. And if I wasn’t full enough, it was time for dinner with Jon :).

We headed to Zizzi’s and actually had a glorious dinner! I had the special to start – pesto and cheese garlic bread (yep you heard right!) and for mains I had the duck with mash lentils and veg and oh my life it was SO tasty!!!! I actually ordered the lasagne which they didn’t have but I’m totally glad they didn’t now. Accompanying our dinner with a bottle of white we had a fab date night, chatting, laughing and of course … people watching (my favourite past time.) As the night was still young we stopped off at Baroosh for some cocktails before stumbling back to our new home happy as Larry.

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We actually stayed up past midnight (I know how rock&roll!) which means we saw in Jon’s birthday drinking prosecco/whiskey in bed and watching Aladdin!

For Jon’s birthday, more food and drink was on the cards including a lush dinner at Bills Restaurant (where I consumed pate on toast, a cheese and bacon burger with chips,a side of mac and cheese….and half a steak – I’m not even ashamed, I’m so impressed!) followed by drinks in the pub to watch Spurs lose which usually I’d be pretty nonchalant about but I put a bet on and they were right in saying it matters more when there’s money on it! So close but yet so far!


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Friday came around (and still no hangover, so unlike me!) I’d drunkenly text some of my pals the night before to see if they fancied watching a live band at the fleece to which they replied yes, so this is what we did. That is after jons mum came and graced us with a dominos pizza (can you smell the heart attack I should be having by now?) filled up on cheese and carbs I headed out to the pub with the girls for “a few quite drinks” which included 2 bottles of prosecco, multiple rum and gingers and a sprinkling of shots. BUT I had a bloody brilliant night, the band was called the hits and I totally recommend you see them next time they grace Chelmsford. I danced, I sang, I lost my voice and I loved it!

Saturday I awoke not feeling fresh as a daisy BUT feeling a lot better than expected. I jumped in a long bath and headed to pick up my bestie who was sporting a fabulous hangover herself. And what better way to cure this than with a bottomless prosecco lunch? (I know I should be dead right now.) we went to The New London in Chelmsford which is not far from me and oh my the food was amazing! Some brilliant choices were made last week food wise and this is 100% one of them. Such a cute little restaurant with clean fresh decor. Lots of windows so it was nice and bright. We both had salmon Arancini balls and I had the sausage and mash which was SO needed! Along with the free flowing bubbles we perked right up, although became slightly delirious, a little loud and inappropriately giggly. We were also joined midway through by a few of the other girls and we continued to drink, chat and laugh for a few hours. Jenna and I then headed back to mine with snacks and champagne to watch magic mike XXL in bed and I have no regrets!

Sunday was spent in my pyjamas, and consisted of an afternoon nap and a dinner exploding with vegetables in an attempt to counteract the rest of the week!

I honestly had the most amazing birthday, surrounded by great people, doing my favourite things! 25, whilst the birthday wasn’t great was actually such a massive year for me and one I will remember forever. But now, we have nothing to save for, we have no commitments, we just have time, time for each other, time for our loved ones, time to have fun! I’m so excited for what this year has in store…. do me proud 26! I know you can 🙂

Peace and love xoxo

Goldsmiths Jewellers…

Saturday the 11th could not have felt more grown up for me, I started my day going to a bank appointment with my husband to talk about insurances for the flat we just bought…. LIKE WHAT!? Husband, mortgage, insurance – I still can’t get my head around this adult Laura that seems to have surfaced from nowhere.

But once all the seriousness was over it was time for something a little different, more enjoyable, a little me time. I was recently contacted by the PR company who work for Goldsmiths jewellers to go check out their new store and pick out some pieces. Firstly, this is all very exciting ’cause I now get to spend a Saturday picking shiny new jewels for myself and secondly, Goldsmiths is part of the Bond St complex which is fast becoming one of my favourite places in Chelmsford so getting to hang around there is A-ok with me.

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Goldsmiths used to be situated on the high street in a narrow, dark store which to be perfectly honest, wasn’t all that inviting. Now however, being on the Bond St complex has done wonders for their image and a new open, minimal, light store is exactly the right look for them!

There’s plenty of staff on hand ready to help you out and take you on a personalised shopping trip to find what’s right for you. I had a meeting set up with a lady called Kimberly who was SO lovely! She first asked me if I would like a drink, for which they have an array and of course I chose a wine ’cause hello it’s Saturday! I then took a seat at one of the many desks they have dotted around and waited for Kimberly to come back.

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We started off chatting about some of the jewellery I own and what I like. I assume they would usually talk about budget here too but as they had kindly gifted me a voucher they already knew mine. We then had a little walk around the store to see if anything caught me eye. Once Kimberly had got an idea of my taste I went and sat back at the desk while she pulled some pieces for me. If you’ve ever had a personal shopper, it’s basically like that but for jewellery!

I honestly felt like one of those ladies who brunches with the girls then spends her afternoon picking out gifts for herself, sipping on fizzy wine without a care in the world! This my friends is a fantastic feeling and I highly recommend you give it a go – fake it till you make it and all that.

So after going through what Kimberly had bought over, nothing was really jumping out at me. Goldsmiths, as a company, host SO MANY different brands and to be able to have all of them on site they would literally need to be in a warehouse. So as this particular store didn’t have many of the “fashion” pieces that I was more geared towards our appointment took an alternative route. This however was not a problem because each desk is set up with an iPad and you’re able to scroll through their website and order items you would like to try.

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So after much deliberation I have ordered a small selection of items and await a call telling me they have arrived. I loved that this was available because I didn’t feel pressured to spend my voucher then and there and I could take some time to decide what I really wanted.

 Kimberly made the whole process so great, she was a really nice down to earth girl. There is nothing worse than pushy sales people, trust me I have been forced to be that person at a previous job and I hated it so much but I didn’t feel like that at Goldsmiths at all. We had such a lovely chat too, it basically felt like I was catching up with a friend while shopping! I think she definitely made the appointment for me, I love meeting new people and getting to know them and I just felt really relaxed in her company.

So if you’re looking to splash out on some new jewellery definitely check out Goldsmiths in Chelmsford. You can either grab a member of staff when you go in or book an appointment in advance. I recommend booking an appointment just because it feels more special. It’s also a great thing to do if you’re looking to buy a gift for someone as they will be able to get a feel for what they like and make suggestions to help you.

Kimberly was really knowledgeable about the different styles and collections and provided some interesting insights; like apparently my engagement ring is a trilogy ring and the three stones represent the past, present and future, I had no idea about this and I absolutely love that concept! She also made me aware of the different services they have available for example, free jewellery cleaning and also if you purchase a ring from them and it needs to be re-covered, they will do this the first time for free no matter when that is needed. This attention to detail speaks volumes.

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I will check back in with you guys when I have chosen my items so you can be nosey 🙂 Let me know if you end up having an appointment at Goldsmiths cause I would love to see what you get!

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Peace and love xoxo

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Finding Home…

As you will probably know from my Homesense post, Jon and I bought a flat. We are officially full fledged grown ups and after living in said flat for 2 weeks now, I could not be happier!

The first time I viewed the flat it just felt like home, I could see us living there. I could see the potential it had and I already started planning in my head what could go where.

I’ve always loved interiors, even as a kid. I used to have this program on my PC where I would design different rooms in my imaginary home. Me and my step sister would also play this game where we had a budget and would have to kit out our homes using the argos catalogue – i know right, you’re jealous of how cool I was hahaha!

I moved out when I was about 19 and starting living in a house share which was fully furnished. Jon and I then moved into a flat together which again was a fully furnished place. This made sense to us at the time because we didn’t have the money to do it up ourselves but after a while I started to hate the old tattered furniture more and more.

I have never had the chance to live out that dream of making somewhere my own. I mean you can try to make a furnished place home, and you do to an extent with pictures etc, but it’s nothing compared to having somewhere that’s entirely your taste!

Now having moved into our own flat Jon and I have been able to discuss furniture, envision colour schemes and buy whatever the hell we want and let me tell you it is SO refreshing! I mean we do have totally different tastes which is awkward but I think because I’m more passionate about it I have taken the lead. Obviously you compromise on stuff and it’s handy because Jon is more bothered about how practical things are where as I want things to look good so together it should be perfect 🙂

If you’re moving I  100% recommend unpacking as soon as possible! Get that place feeling like your home ASAP.  I couldn’t stand being surrounded by boxes and got the majority done in the first couple of days, taking the empty boxes to the tip to give us a nice clear space. We still have a few more bits to sort out but will need to wait till the furniture we’ve ordered arrives cause at the moment, it doesn’t have a home.

But we do! We have found our home in this lovely little flat where we will make lots of brand new and exciting memories! I thought I would be really sad to leave our old flat, it was the first place we had lived together, Jon proposed to me in the living room, I planned our wedding there, so many happy times. But it isn’t till you move somewhere that fills your heart with joy that you realise none of that matters! you still have those memories and you will hold them dear but this is a fresh start and an exciting new chapter.

As I write this I have my laptop propped up on our bay window in the bedroom, watching a squirrel run across the fence of our car park and that to me is perfect. It’s not the most amazing flat in the world, but it’s ours and we love it!

Peace and Love xoxo

The hangover 

Let me start by saying I get THE WORST hangovers EVER! Like I cannot physically get out of bed and think I might die kind of hangovers. For any normal person, this may deter them from drinking in such large quantities but I am not one such person.

In my defence I’m usually just super thirsty, then further dehydrated by the alcohol, thus order more – if someone could point me in the direction of some water at this stage that’d be fab cause I clearly forget that it exists and happens to be y’know, the most hydrating thing ever.

I’m going to liken hangovers to child birth – stick with me here cause no I obviously haven’t had a child if I’m likening it to hangovers BUT I’m talking about the after math, the OMG THAT WAS AWFUL IM NEVER DOING IT AGAIN and then oops your pregnant/hanging beyond belief! (Hopefully not both!)

I was in this sorry state last weekend (hungover not pregnant) and it threw me so out of whack that I’ve only just got back on top of my game. I’d been so productive at the beginning of the year and got myself into a nice little routine of gym, keeping the flat tidy, upping my self care and BAM! I got drunk and ruined it all!

I was in bed ALL weekend, only leaving to lay on my friends sofa and eat mozzarella sticks whilst watching Disney films. I ordered the most gigantic dominos all to myself, ate sweets, fizzy drinks, didn’t go to the gym. I was in a bad way and it left me in such a funk.

I HATE being hungover and I hate losing my weekends to this foul beast, it’s the most frustrating thing and it’s never worth it. I’m not even the type of person who needs to get smashed to have a good time which annoys me even more when I do.

This post is basically a release of negativity for me because I beat myself up SO MUCH when I do this. I want to be able to read this back and be like yeah babe it’s not worth it just have a couple of glasses of wine this time or y’know none at all!

I get so on track with my fitness and eat reasonable well and then throw it all away for one drunken night that makes me miserable! I take my hat off to those with self control – teach me your ways! Maybe I’ll just drive everywhere then I won’t have a choice and I’ll wake up with a fist pump, feeling fresh as a daisy with no regrets.

I’m not saying I’m going to stop drinking completely cause I like a cheeky tipple as much as the next person but as with anything, it’s about moderation and self control.

I want my liver to hold out for all my years, I want beautiful glowy skin, I want rock hard abs (LOLZ) and I won’t get any of those things binge drinking then eating through my hangover – your not 16 18 anymore Laura …. get a grip!

Please tell me I’m not the only one who goes through this!

Peace and love xoxo

Organisation is key…

Happy New Year!!!

Ok so I know we are a few days into January but I have mainly been taking this time to get back to reality, deal with it really badly and try to stay on track.

I haven’t made any new years resolutions as such but you may have seen my posts on the full and new moons?! Basically I am setting monthly intentions. They may be the same each month or they could change but the beauty of it is, you aren’t setting a number of goals at the beginning of the year and then feeling like crap when you don’t achieve them. Setting intentions monthly allows you to review your goals, say goodbye to anything that isn’t serving you well and renew what is important to you. Personally I think this is a much healthier way of doing things!

All of your intentions should be positive too. For example I want to stop being such a lazy slob, but instead of having this as my goal I have flipped it to be more positive and set a number of intentions with this as my motive; such as be more organised and self care.

Does anyone else lay around thinking of all the things they need to do but do just that… think about them and never actually do them? Me too and that was my motivation behind this one. I am usually quite good to begin with and then it all goes down hill but I really want this to work!

I am the type of person who will have all the stuff to make lunch for the next day, who will think about making said lunch but will instead chose to watch netflix in bed whilst aimlessly scrolling through social media….. NO LAURA!!! This is not the kind of person I want to be SO organisation is top of my agenda!

I’ve had a super domesticated weekend and sitting here on a Sunday evening typing this, I really feel like I’ve got my shit together! I mean not in all ways…. I did drive to Tesco this afternoon without my purse and had to swiftly revert back home to get it *FACE PALM*.

But here are some things I did this weekend to make that Monday morning back to reality January snooze fest a little easier:

1.BIG CLEAN

I am literally ashamed at how gross my flat got! Especially as I spent the majority of the Christmas period doing naff all, so after a double gym sesh on Saturday I came home with all the energy and all the motivation! We actually have cleaners most of the time but I’m feeling the January pinch sooooo poor first world problems Laura must do her own cleaning…. just call me Cinderella. Which is basically how I felt, literally on my hands and knees scrubbing the kitchen floor but MY GOD do I feel bloody splendid now! I am 100% one of those people who is effected by their surroundings, if my home is a mess…. so am I. It throws everything off track. But now all is sparkly and good in the world!

2. EXERCISE

Getting back into some form of fitness regime is doing wonders for my motivation. I started the year feeling a bit crap about my body, as I’m at the higher end of my comfort zone weight wise. But I forced myself to actually look in the mirror and not see the vision of myself I think I should be and I’m like babes you have a great bod, you have your bod! It does amazing things for you and you for it. This self acceptance makes going to the gym or doing any kind of physical activity so much better and healthier cause you aren’t punishing yourself. You’re taking me time, some self care time, some time away from social media and work and chores. That alone is enough to give yourself a mental high five and I mean the endorphins help!

3. MEAL PREP

As mentioned, after arriving at Tesco for the second time today, equipped with my bank card, I did a big ole weekly food shop. Now I wouldn’t say I’m on a diet or a health kick at all cause y’know, cheese, but I am making conscious choices about certain things. My current diet generally consists of a protein shake for breakfast, home made energy balls as a snack, chicken and sweet potato for lunch and whatever for dinner (usually pasta tuna pesto and cheese – old habbits die hard.) I find that prepping my lunches before hand makes SUCH a difference. Knowing how lazy I am I realise that if I leave it, I won’t end up making anything and will have to buy stuff and let me tell you, those costs rack up! So today I’ve made enough chicken and sweet potato (roasted) to take me to Wednesday where I will have to do more and enough energy balls for the entire week.

4. WASH MAKE UP BRUSHES

So you may be grossed out to know that until last Sunday I had never washed a make up brush. I’ve bought new ones sure but I’ve never cleaned them. Now, in a bid to help my skin I have taken to cleaning the brushes I have used that week on the Sunday. I do this with warm water and baby shampoo and OMG so soft and lovely to use after!

5. PICK AN OUTFIT

I cannot be the only one who goes to bed with the intention of springing up in the morning and girl bossing life but actually leaves it till the last minute and runs around like a headless chicken!? I am not a morning person, not by any stretch! I wake up and lay there like nope…. I literally argue with myself about it every morning, I know I should just get up but my body will not. Now if you know this about yourself it makes SO much difference if you prep everything the night before. This allows you to get up and autopilot through your morning thanking your past self for the stress relief. I did this all of last week except for Thursday night (for Friday morning) and I could really tell the difference. One of the main things I do is pick an outfit for the next day because if I have to stand there half asleep in the morning and pick something, we could be there all day.

So these are just a few things that are helping me at the moment and they’re obviously based on my lifestyle but I think the general concept of being organised is something we can all benefit from!

Let me know if you have any tips on being organised and staying motivated.

Peace and Love xoxo

2016 – the review 

Ok so this post is more for me, to reflect on a fab year and move onto the next! 


January

Manchester | London health show | trinity house drinks reception for sailors society | bloggers below zero at the ice bar | court tour in London 

February 

Amsterdam | friends engagement party | my 25th birthday (and terrible spa experience) | jons grandad passed | Lee Stafford event | fancy dress party for friends bday 

March 

Spring fling – work party | organised blogger meet up | work trip to Germany 

April 

quiz night to save gorillas | blogger dinner at Jamie’s Chelmsford | full body medical | aerial taster day | meeting baby lamb at lathcoats | wedding make up trial 

May

Bought my wedding dress | saturated colour event | Darren’s heart attack | 3 year flat anniversary | P&I exam (passed) | reggae day 

June 

Work hen do | afternoon tea for step nans bday | unlimited pizza and prosecco at sway |dorset to visit holly with Jenna | law firm summer party | mini hen do with mother in law – afternoon tea and spa | globe theatre – midsummer nights dream – for Jenna’s bday | met gok wan 

July 

Hen weekend! | afternoon tea for mums bday | stampede review at lakeside | sushi samba | joined a walking group for the night | got wedding rings | big blogger expo | gilgamesh with Jenna | promotion 

August

Yo sushi review | cottage with bridesmaids | MY WEDDING DAY! | Rome | Kath and sams wedding | v festival | wivenhoe to see Esther 

September 

Dorset\weymouth | intu lakeside AW fashion event | cinema to see bad moms | casino | Cardiff for city of the unexpected with Millie | Hamburg for work | Work ball | zizzi night with Hannah gale and Elle next door | clothes swap party 

October 

Put offer in on flat | afternoon tea with Jenna | met martina cole | ceremony of the keys at Tower of London | apple day at lathcoats | pumpkin decorating at gems country life | dinner at dads | international maritime law seminar | Carys’ Halloween party 

November 

Taught self to wrap crystals | Manchester | bedlam exhibition at wellcome collection | VIP night at ASK Italian | sink the pink panto – down the rabbit hole | girls night roast with Jess and Lottie | Emma gannon Girlboss talk | RNLI charity dinner | vuelio blog awards | early Christmas dinner | German member reception in Hamburg 

December 

Early Boxing Day | day in court | Christmas party | Christmas work lunch | bloggers winter wonderland | priors fight at evoke | dreamgirls | Christmas Eve drinks | moana with Rebecca

Click the links for posts, instagrams and YouTube videos relating to everything I’ve done this year! 

Hope you all had a great 2016! See you in 2017 my lovelies 🙂 

Peace and love xoxo  

Podcasts I’m currently listening to…

I’d like to start by saying I’ve never been a podcast girl, aside from the fact that I hate putting headphones in my ears, they just haven’t been on my radar. It was actually my friend Jenna who sparked the interest in me, as someone who frequently listens to podcast series.

Ok, so it’s not like I’ve NEVER listened to a podcast. I was intoduced to the concept first by my husband who is an avid follower of The Ricky Gervais XFM ones; this was before they became hip and cool and back in a time when only a select few had ever heard of Karl Pilkinton. Jon actually falls asleep with the sounds of the old XFM crew every single night, and has done since before we met. Sometimes we listen to them together but then he swiftly takes the headphone away from me because I laugh too loud.

I’ll give you a second to guess what the other one is………….. yep, serial. Of course it is I mean is there anyone who HASN’T listened to that podcast? I was hooked from beginning to end!

So aside from the 2 mentioned above… these are the voices I’ve been dabbling in of late.

The Allutionist

A literary whirlwind hosted by Helen Zaltzman where discussions of language and etymology fill your ears. Not guna lie, this one makes me feel super intellectual. I was recently listening to the podcast whilst drinking a glass of red and cooking home made spag bowl for me and the husband – is this what they call adulating or what?! Past Laura never saw that one coming. If you are into words this is definitely for you. It’s interesting, it’s funny and you may even learn a thing or two – what’s not to love?

Criminal 

I actually stumbled across this one because it was mentioned in the Allutionist, both being part of the radiotopia family. As suggested in it’s title, the podcasts is about different criminal situations. Short snippets of peoples stories, whether they have committed a crime, been victimised or sit somewhere in between. Still to date episode 1 is my favourite – I was walking home from the train station with my mouth wide open in pure disbelief! Disclaimer alert – I do not suggest listening to this podcast before bed. A few times now I have fallen asleep with an episode on and let’s just say, my dreams aren’t usually that murderous.

#girlbossradio 

If you saw my “books I’m loving right now” post, you will already be aware of the #girlboss babe that is Sophia Amoruso. Following the success of the book Sophia has launched a podcast in which she is joined by inspirational women who are absolutely killing it in their field of choice. Who doesn’t love a bit of female empowerment? I’m only 2 episode’s in but I’m already feeling motivated.

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Another podcast following a book from my list and this time by Emma Gannon. Again I’ve only listened to 2 episodes so far but it’s been a super interesting find. As a young woman who has grown up along side the internet much like Emma, it is great to hear her guests views on it, how they’ve used it to fuel their success and what the drawbacks may be.

Edit: I’m like 30 episodes in now and I just cannot get enough of this podcast! Emma is finding THE best guests and I now follow a whole load more people on twitter. Deffo get on this one asap.

My dad wrote a porno

Well I had to save the best till last! This is my go to evening podcast at the moment, usually tucked up in bed with a bowl of pasta (don’t judge). I cannot believe I haven’t listened to this before. So many people suggested it to me and I just never got round to it but my god have I been missing out. IT IS HILLARIOUS, like laugh out loud funny, my neighbours must be getting sick of me cackling into the evening. If you aren’t familiar this is a podcast started by a guy who’s dad…. wrote a porno. He and 2 pals read a chapter a week and basically rip the shit out of it and it’s honestly one of the funniest things I’ve heard in a long time. So simple yet so effective. There is now 2 series of erotic fun to get through and the team are releasing a book in the near future. Make sure to check them out, I promise you won’t be disappointed.

Are any of you avid podcast listeners? Do you have any regular ones that you just cannot get enough of or are you into any of the above? Let me know in the comments!

Peace and Love xoxo

+ also LOL at this picture I’ve used, it was literally a random snapchat from this morning and the only thing I could find to put in this post so I could get it up now.

Millennial heros…

This post (and potential follow ups) are inspired by Emma Gannon. After reading her ctrl alt delete book and becoming obsessed with the podcast series I’ve had a whirl of thoughts in my head that I feel the need to put out there. So here we are, delving into the brain of Laura – good luck guys.

If you didn’t guess from the title I’m going to be focussing on hero’s but mainly the distinct shift in who we are looking up to these days and the potential impact of that. (This is all sounding very English essay!)

When I was younger I looked up to the Spice Girls (of course I was always baby spice). Now I might have had the blonde hair but I could not hold a tune and without such shows as the X Factor promising a quick fix to stardom I was pretty certain I was never going to actually become baby spice. She was an idol to me – someone to luck up to – but that’s where it stopped.

Nowadays hero’s for our millennial generation are way more attainable! Let’s take the obvious Zoella as an example. Just a young girl in her room talking to her camera – blown into the depths of fame and multi millions for just doing what she loved. Now I’m not diminishing YouTube as a viable career ’cause it definitely is and having dabbled in having my own channel I know that it not an easy thing to do well BUT it is something that most people can do. It’s easy to set up your own channel and if you have a camera and an internet connection you are pretty much set. As a result we have lost that comfort blanket of unattainability.

Our young people (I’m going to include myself in this category too) are now faced with guys and gals of a similar age who are doing amazing things. So if you have a mediocre social media following, if nobody reads or blog or watches your YouTube videos you can be left with crippling self doubt – Why are they better than me? What are they doing that I’m not?

The same can be said for reality stars, I spent a lot of my youth getting trollied at the weekends however because it wasn’t filmed for a TV show I am not now releasing a fitness dvd (LOL definitely not at the moment) or writing a memoir or being asked to join loose women.

We used to see celebs in the magazines and think DAMN I WISH but we saw them more like fictional creatures we could never become. Now we have social media / reality stars showing us their “real” selves and to STILL suffer by comparison does bad things to the ole confidence. There’s no wonder more kids are being diagnosed with anxiety issues.

However on the other hand, having more down to earth “real life” role models can also be a blessing. We now know that those pictures are edited, we now have people who show us their downs as well as their ups, we now have people speaking about issues and using their platforms in amazing ways that was never available before. To have your voice heard back in the day you would have to be featured in some print journalism or be seen on TV. The power of social media nowadays is un real! You can send a singular tweet with your daily musing and it could be seen by thousands of people. Hashtags are bringing like minded individuals together to make amazing things happen. The online presence and strength of social media I’m sure, is beyond the imagination of the creators. I mean the fact that you can now directly contact your idols and there’s a chance they might reply absolutely blows the mind of a #fangirl like myself. Can you imagine popping Elvis a tweet or tagging frank Sinatra in a selfie!

Social media jobs are in such high demand these days. Everyone and their aunt is now a blogger or a vlogger. Becoming successful in this field is a lot more difficult and we shouldn’t beat ourselves up about it. People crave new exciting content and if you aren’t producing then bye bye baby! Also the reality’s of being self employed are not all that glamorous and I take my hat off to the full timers. I don’t think I would have the balls to give up my secure monthly salary, benefit scheme and yearly bonus to wing it in the internet world. Filing your own tax returns, wondering if you will have enough sponsored content to pay your bills, struggling to prove you are eligible for a mortgage. But how I envy their lifestyle – having your own business, putting all you passion and efforts into something that is yours and building a brand for yourself. It’s an exciting if not absolutely terrifying position to be in.

Knowing that there are 12 year olds out there making more money than me purely on their social media accounts COULD send me into turmoil but why should it?! Good on them! They work hard and they deserve that. You have to think about YOUR goals, what YOU want from life and not suffer by comparison.

Sure, have role models! But regardless of whether they are attainable, do not let your SELF be dictated by what they’re doing. You do you boo!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic, I could literally go on and on!

Peace and Love xoxo

Books I’m loving right now…

As the weather gets colder, the chances of me stepping outside become slim to none. Its time to swap the summer cocktails for something more warm and cosy – like a home made stew and some fresh fluffy socks.

In the winter months, there is not much that beats a cosy setting and a good book. So in the spirit of all things cooler I thought I’d give you some recommendations, to keep you entertained on those hyggelig nights in.

1. Me Before You – Jo Jo Moyes


No you’re late to the party! I must be the only person (in the blogosphere at least) who hadn’t read this book, seen the film or failed to know the plot. I won’t lie and say I was hooked from the beginning but I absolutely fell in love with the book by the end. I was so invested in the characters and their lives. I read the last chapter tucked up in bed, unable to stop till I was finished. (Which was followed by me crying for about half an hour and texting my friend sad, angry thoughts.) If you’re up for a little heart wrenching romance then this is definitely for you! I feel like I need to add here that I absolutely despised the film, I don’t think it did the book justice at all!

2.After You – Jo Jo Moyes


The sequal to Me Before You which I started reading after my mum had told me she preferred it to the first. I was so in love with the first book I couldn’t fathom even liking the sequal – how on earth where they going to make another book?! But boy did they! All I’m going to say is, I did not see any of that coming! I think I kind of detached this book from the first in a way, it felt like a totally different story but I also read it with hints of affection (and hurt and anger) from the previous book. As with the last, the characters were so well portrayed that I became totally invested in them once again.

3. The Secrets of Happiness – Lucy Diamond 


I picked this book up on a whim as I was about to board a long haul coach journey to Cardiff and I’m really glad I did. Another slow starter for me though. I liked that the story was based around 2 step sisters, a relationship you can only properly relate to if you have one your self (I have 4!). Despite a frosty beginning, the book ended up being a really heart warming feel good story and I could actually relate to both of the main characters on different levels. I’d recommend to anyone with a sister / step family  or someone looking for an uplifting tale (although don’t expect song birds and lullabys from the start!)

4.#Girlboss – Sophia Amoruso


I’m sure you’re all aware of this book by now but if not, you should be. This was my “read on the way to work and absolutely smash the day” book. So much positivity, realness and motivation. The story of a frugal hippie turns multi millionaire.The fact that she’s a woman who did all of this off her own back makes it 100 times more empowering. Maybe less of a curled up cosy on the sofa book but a definite #mondaymotivation read for you guys.

5.Little book of Hygge -Meik Wiking


If you’re unaware of Hygge by now then you must be living under a rock! It’s absolutely everywhere and is perfect for this autumn / winter season. But just in case you don’t know, Hygge is a Danish concept which basically includes being cosy, burning a tonne of candles, spending quality time with your favourite people and eating naughty treats. Now this is more of a coffee table book, a pick up and read as and when. However I have been reading it pretty regularly because I’m finding it all very interesting. I’m totally inspired in terms of my home and social life and plan to spend a lot more time laying around in blankets eating sugary carbs with my friends (basically the total opposite to #girlboss!) Written by a Happiness researcher, it’s certainly interesting to compare Denmark to the UK and I think it’s pretty obvious why they’re one of the happiest nations on the planet.

6. The One Plus One – Jo Jo Moyes


Another book I picked up for the long haul coach to Cardiff (it was 2 for 1 in WH Smiths – I couldn’t resist.) Really enjoyed this but god it was an emotional rollercoaster (aren’t all the best books though?) If you’re a mum, I think you will get more emotional about it, I know my mine did. With twists and turns, ups and downs, this book makes you appreciate the people in your life. The simple things. It revolves around the big question of – if you do good things, will good things happen to you? Well you’ll have to read it to find out what the outcome was. I particularly liked the way it was written, instead of chapters each “section” was written from a different characters perspective and I think it worked really well!

7. Ctrl Alt Delete – growing up online – Emma Gannon


I have only just started this one but I am already hooked! It’s like Emma is describing my teenage years. Everything she says I’m like yep, yep, yep! It’s a bit scary actually but also comforting knowing that pretty much everyone my age has gone through this weird, confusing cyber induced life. I actually went through some of my old diaries the other day (MASSIVE cringe) and they are filled with old msn conversations and that heart wrenching boy obsession. Can’t wait to read more of this one and basically have Emma recite my life back to me.

(I’ve actually nearly finished this since writing my blog post and I’m still as obsessed as I was at the beginning. Really great read! I’ve also started listening to Emma’s podcast which is so amazing but more on that in another post)

Pre-Ordered

I currently have 2 books on pre order including the new Sophie Kinsella novel, “My not so perfect life” (Literally my fave author I always pre-order her books) and Hannah Wittons “Doing It” (super excited for this one after watching her YouTube videos I think Hannah is a great ambassador for the younger generation.)

What have you been reading at the moment?! Send me your literary inspo for those cold wintery nights.

Peace and Love xoxo

+ all images my own except the first one because I can’t seem to find my book!! (Face palm)