Miss to Mrs || The Name Change

  I was born with a feminist brain and the heart of a hopeless romantic and let me tell you straight off that the two don’t always get along!

At the moment, with the impending wedding my sassy sisters are in a complete debacle about the whole name change situation. On the one hand the hopeless romantic cannot wait to be a wife, to take the name of her one true love, to be a Mrs…. The Grants! On the other hand the feminist is dying inside, she is furiously shaking her fist at the hopeless romantic and screaming for her independence, clinging on to the name that she has built her life around for so many years, her reputation, everything about her is in this name.

So then who is right? They both make a good case! I am stuck in between this torturous pair on the regs and I wish they could just agree!

I will of course be changing my name regardless but there’s still that niggling feeling that I’m loosing something. I mean I am 100% devoted to my fiancé, I am ready to share my life with him forever but am I ready to loose the only identity I’ve ever known? Will I become a different person?

I can’t be the only one who thinks these things? And we shouldn’t feel guilty for thinking them (although sometimes I do!) It doesn’t mean you’re not committed, it doesn’t mean you’re any less ready or in love. I personally think it’s a completely normal process.
I am a pretty family oriented person, I love my family to bits and I am so proud to be a Butcher, I’ve been referred to solely by my last name by friends for so many years, I am known as a Butcher and I guess I’m just scared to lose that. Will people think different of me? Will I feel less like part of my family?

But on the other hand I get to make my own family, to share my name with my husband and to have children who are part of us and our name. I will be responsible for carrying on a family name which at the moment does not feel mine but one day it will!

I don’t see it as giving myself to someone else, I don’t see taking their name as a negative, I see it as a step I am happy to take to become that traditional, fairytale, family unit … To be the Grants!

 

Mrs Laura Grant will be with you in a few months and I can’t wait for you to meet her … She’s a bloody hoot I tell ya 😉

Having sadly laid both the original Grants to rest this past year I feel a sense of pride to be stepping into their shoes. Whilst they could never be replaced, I can only hope that we will live up to their 60+ years of marriage, the strong relationship they had and the amazing people that they were! I hope that they will be proud of what we have and I hope to do their name and their family justice.

Peace and Love xoxo

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  1. March 17, 2016 / 11:35 am

    Great post Mrs (soon to be) Laura Grant! 🙂 🙂 🙂

    I understand exactly what you mean but there’s nothing wrong with being romantic. I think the worst thing for me would be losing my surname as I’ve always liked it! And I’m my dad’s only child so it would kind of stop the ‘Wallace’ line!! But friends you’ve had for years would still remember you as Butcher 🙂

    And you definitely shouldn’t feel guilty! It’s natural to feel like that and a good thing too! xxx

    • March 17, 2016 / 11:37 am

      Aw thanks 🙂 yeah I love being a butcher and it’s kind of a s art concept to become something totally different! Xx

      • March 17, 2016 / 12:03 pm

        What about Laura Butcher-Grant? Has a ring to it!!! 🙂 xxx

        • March 17, 2016 / 12:43 pm

          I did think about it but I don’t really like it I actually really like Laura grant – just a big change lol xx

          • March 17, 2016 / 2:45 pm

            It sounds rather regal lol but I like Laura Grant too 🙂 xxx

          • March 17, 2016 / 2:46 pm

            It’s sounds like I’ve butchered a grant hahahahaha! Xx

          • March 17, 2016 / 3:29 pm

            Hahaha!!! Better than Granting a Butcher! What?! Lol xxx

  2. March 17, 2016 / 12:11 pm

    Completely normal to feel like this but fear not, you will still be a Butcher at heart. My maiden name was Peacock, personally I hated it, but like you people called me by my last name and still do. Peacock still makes an appearance, I don’t think it ever really leaves you.

  3. March 17, 2016 / 12:27 pm

    Ahhhh LAURA GRANT – its got a ring to it girl! I do get what you mean about having issues about loosing your last name that does scare me a little for when it happens but like one of the other comments up above said you’ll always be a Butcher at heart. Ever thought about double barrelling the name? So you can have both. I think this is what ill do, Mayes has such sentimental value to me I don’t think I could let go of it. Anywhooooo, its not long now till the big day!! xx

    • March 17, 2016 / 12:42 pm

      Yeah I did think about it but it’s a bit clunky lol I like Laura grant it’s just a big change!! 🙂 x

  4. March 19, 2016 / 10:10 am

    Wooo! Congratulations miss Bride-to-be <3
    I totally get your struggle. I think about that, too. I have a long name (Noor Unnahar) and people often neglect my surname, so it's a plus I wouldn't have a lot of troubling shifting to a new surname. A part of me desperately want to adopt my husband-to-be's name but the other part struggle to stay with the surname I currently have. I am sure I will go for my husband's surname, but this little irk would never go away.

  5. March 30, 2016 / 4:24 pm

    Hi. I came across your blog which I find it to be very entertaining. Naturally I do feel very in tune with how you feel, I often think of get married and the change of the name. Personally I think I am going to go for Annalisa Mongio’ Mancinelli. I know it’s very long but I really can’t give up my surname 🙁 There is however nothing wrong with you doing that, you will always be a Butcher 🙂
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    • March 30, 2016 / 4:27 pm

      Thank you for your kind comment 🙂 I know, it’s a very big step!! Yours sounds lovely though, laura butcher grant doesn’t have the same finesse! But I know deep down I’ll always be a butcher at heart 🙂 we have everything booked now but thank you, my friend got married in Italy and it looked beautiful! We are actually coming to Rome the day after the wedding for four days 🙂

      • March 30, 2016 / 5:12 pm

        Actually I wrote to you because I like your blog and also because of the possibility to help one another in finding inspirations or help for our blogs with feedback or whatever and of course help build each other’s network 🙂

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