You would expect this sort of post to be coming from a bitter single person but no… I am happily engaged and STILL do not celebrate valentines! “But why?” you ask and the simple answer to that is…. because it’s stupid! But of course I will elaborate.
Although there is some wishy washy story of saint Valentinus for which the day is named, Valentines is basically a day made up by consumerists in order to suck money from the needy.
Let’s think about this logically, Valentines day – as it is celebrated today – is a day in which you are forced to show affection to your other half in the form of chocolates, flowers, dinners, diamonds and whatever else you can think of. It is also a day in which single people want to fall into a pit of Ben and Jerry’s or get mauled by Alsatians (much like the scene in Bridget Jones.)
Why on earth are we celebrating this? Why are you so happy that your partner has bought you a gift purely because the day tells them to? Surely it would be more romantic if they surprised you with gifts on a random day… I mean I’m all for that cause at least it’s legit.
I love my fiancé every day! I buy/make him cards for random occasions, I’ll buy him chocolate just because, I even made him a certificate when he was top goal scorer on Fifa! (I know right, major girlfriend points over here!) This is what we should be doing, we should be appreciating each other “just because” – I guarantee this will get a more sincere reaction. The art of the unexpected gift is a powerful thing.
You’re probably asking yourself whether I celebrate any other special occasions given that these are also, technically, “forced”… here are my thoughts:
Birthdays – yes, you are celebrating the day you graced the earth with your presence and as you are so bloody awesome it is customary to partay!
Christmas – yes, although I am not religious I enjoy Christmas purely because it is the one time of year families and friends make a real effort to spend quality time together. (And OBV all the food!)
Anniversaries – yes, you are remembering an amazing time. The time you met, the time you got married, your first date. I’m all for this – I love to reminisce.
Halloween – ALL DAY ERRY DAY… basically any excuse to dress up, in fact all hallows eve in my number one babe!
But this is pretty much all I celebrate.
I do not believe in a day that makes me buy stuff and give forced affection. I do not believe in a day that ostracises the single making them feel bad because they don’t have a significant other. I do not believe in a day which makes going out to a restaurant SO BLOODY DIFFICULT and full of sickening couples sharing desserts and holding hands across the table – don’t act like you don’t want your own dessert, you’re not fooling anyone my friend.
So this may seem like a cynical, bitter post but so be it! I am not ashamed of my distaste for valentines. In the same breath I do not judge those who are all over it … that’s your perogative (as Britney would so wisely say.)
As a side note however I do have to admit that I usually make Jon a valentines card MAINLY to give a giant middle finger to the card companies like; “oh you promote this day so that I will get sucked in and buy your cards??? JOKES ON YOU!!! I made my own SUCKAAA.” They used to be really extravagant and full of printed out pictures but the longer we are together the more sarcastic they get. I’m pretty sure last years was “I cant wait to get old and fat with you.” I have a great idea for this years one though so keep your eyes on my insta!
So if you do not get anything from your other half for Valentines day, don’t hate on them for it. If you don’t have a partner for Valentines day, who cares? It’s just another day! Do whatever you would usually do 🙂
Peace and love xoxo